When people face minimalism in a deeper dimension than just materialistic, there are analyzes that make us rethink life completely. Who is important in my life? What is the profession of my dreams? What I really like to do? What do I need to be completely happy?
We spent so much time of life acting to please others that when we affirm ourselves we get weird judgess. We are "anti-social" or we are "away" people. Have you ever felt alone in a crowd? Did you have everything and felt you had nothing?
As we study the personal and professional relationships around us we realized several points:
- We use (waste) very good time of our lives with conversations that bring nothing
- Most people who are in our lives do not know us or we them
- A part of people care so much about themselves that will not listen to anything you say ... others will many questions about you because they like to gossip ...
- Are rare ones that will take care of you, will be concerned with you and will be available for you the way you deserve.
This does not mean that you now pass to isolate themselves. You only need to have an awareness of the relationships we live in and the dedication and service that we do. I am so grateful to those people who just "know" and make me smile a lot. There are some that make me learn so much ... I love the experience and conversation, knowledge and learning.
Who do I have in my life is more important than what I have on it.
Minimalism is a perfect tool to remove excesses of our life and extol what we have significant it. But the deeper we dig in our interior, more personal revelations found not only about ourselves but about everything and all those around us.
My search for "meaningful relationships" (relationships that have meaning) brought me three consequences:
1ª spent the better care and be more present to those who are very important to me
2ª spent the better deal with those relationships that due to unavoidable factors such as family, work and others, are part of my life, despite not having a strong connection
3ª spent not want to use my time with negative relationships or that have no meaning but to take advantage is something that I have
These consequêcias are interconnected. The third, of course, that influences the first and vice versa. By applying this philosophy of life gives a strong change visible to anyone who is "out."
If we are increasingly dedicated to those we love it is easy being surrounded by people at the mall and not feel any attraction at that time. Basically, what we really want is to spend more time with "those" people. So the place and time lose interest if they are not significant enough in our analysis or do not include those who want to dedicate our time.
The same happens in a simple coffee or chatting with a friend with whom no longer identify. Either because it is shopping or gossip.
So, imagine a will of friends or family, with music, singing, laughter and good atmosphere! May not be the "best friends" but the affection and love are unique. We need this heat, this conviviality and this lightness. Enjoy every moment of experience and experience!
And so, you are giving attention to those significant relationships in your life? Are you using your time as you want with regard to sms, emails and other contacts? Have you identified and did something about those negative relationships?